Could You Help Me Out???

I do a lot of reading on spanking type blogs and have eagerly been searching for one particular type...I was wondering if anyone could help me out?

In our relationship Mike is the one who was initially the believer in spanking for discipline and now after having experienced that it works and that it works for us I am now a believer too. However, most of the blogs I read (which I thoroughly enjoy reading btw) are for the most part blogs where the women was the one to bring up spanking to their partners/husbands.

Does anyone know of anyone who is blogging where the male was the one who brought it to their partners?
There is a hint of a different type of dynamic in those and I would love to connect with those blogs.


If anyone could help me out I would really appreciate it.  


Mandy

How I Tick

I know that many have varying opinions on spanking and many who are unfamiliar to the idea have speculated.

I have learned that to each their own and one persons reasons for spanking, needing to be spanked etc. all differ greatly. Some use it as foreplay, sex-play, role-play, discipline and so on and on and on...

Mike and I use spanking for discipline only and or stress relief for me.
Does being spanked turn me on? No
Does spanking me turn Mike on? Sometimes
Does being threatened with a spanking turn me on? Sometimes
Do I want to be spanked? Sometimes

It is all very complicated to some degree especially when spanking is used for discipline. Sometimes it's cut and dry, I break an agreed upon rule and I get spanked...simple. There's nothing sexy about that or erotic...

Switch gears a little and let me paint this picture:

Let's say I am being a bit of a smart ass (hard for even me to imagine :))
Let's say Mike is in an easy going mood and takes it lightly and we begin to playfully banter back and forth.
For example sake, let's say Mike feels the banter could be going too far and I could be crossing the line on disrespect...
He might say something like (Cool it Mandy otherwise I can easily take you across my lap and spank that ass) (Cautiously this could be a turn on) Some of you may relate and others may not...it's simply how I tick.

There's something about his dominance that is extremely attractive to me...knowing that he is willing and able to rein me in if needed, in any situation is a turn on for "me." Notice I said ME. Not everyone responds the same and not every time do I even respond the same. Sometimes his little warnings aggravate me, other times they fall on deaf ears and I do end up across his lap...those times are NOT in anyway a turn on to me. His dominance is a turn on, to me it's sexy. To me, it's about his disposition and the way he carries himself as a dominant male that I find sexy, not being spanked.

Others are very aroused with being spanked and that's fine too, however because Mike uses spanking as a form of discipline he chose to not incorporate "fun", erotic, or play type spankings for the purpose confusing the two. In all honesty, I have never been spanked in a fun playful way so I wouldn't know if that type of spanking would be arousing to me or not.

My point is that there are different strokes for different folks and what works for some may not not for others. The way we use spanking works for us although I thoroughly enjoying reading all types of blogs and hearing their stories as well...even the ones who's stories differ greatly from ours.

Either way...happy spanking! (or not) :)


Mandy

A Release

Last night Mike and I had some quiet time and he used that opportunity to talk to me. I have been somewhat stressed lately and when I get that way I bottle things up inside, it's a coping strategy but I am learning not a very healthy one. The two of us have never had any issues communicating, actually he is the easiest man in the world to talk to. Some men aren't very good at communicating, I am very lucky in this area. Even during the times I know that I have upset him, he absolutely never yells...ever! He gets mad sure but his voice is always even toned and he will always listen to what's on my mind, I love that about him. So, why I struggle with bottling things up when it comes to talking to him still remains a mystery...

We have a pretty normal pattern that works for us when it comes to his spanking style, usually it consists of me over his knee either with him sitting on a chair, couch or the end of the bed. He broke that pattern last night and sat up against the head of the bed and got very comfortable, patted his lap and told me to lay across it. I had got myself into a bit of a bind a few days prior and hid this from him, he had warned me that when we had the opportunity I was going to be spanked for it, so this wasn't a surprise. What surprised me was his demeanor during this as he had a very determined expression and mannerism about it all.  He told me once across his lap that no longer am I allowed to keep things from him or to bottle things up. He asked lots and lots of questions, lectured until I wanted to scream and spanked the whole time. I was so glad that this all took place over my jeans as he was using a small paddle that is hated. I answered all his questions truthfully and felt much better after I did, it was honestly a huge mental and emotional release for me. The part I hated was when after we got through all the talking and lecturing...he abruptly yanked my panties down and started spanking hard with the paddle. It felt like a hailstorm that lasted quite awhile and I'm sure I looked like a fish out of water the way I was flopping around. He held me tight at my waist and continued to spank for what seemed like forever. My ass is sore today, very sore but I slept like a baby and feel so much better mentally and emotionally... words cannot describe.

Mandy

Panties and Spankings

I must confess I have always loved wearing pretty panties! I am sorta anal about it actually...I love insist on wearing matching bras and panties whenever possible. It just makes me feel good to dress pretty underneath my clothes too...which brings me to my point:

Prior to spankings I had a large assortment of different panties but now that Mike sees them often due to spankings, the assortment has grown substantially. It's actually ridiculous!!! I can't stop buying panties...I have officially diagnosed myself with OPD!!! (obsessive panties disorder)

I wonder am I the only one? I just guess I kinda figure if my backside is going to be on display to him so much I might as well make it cute, right.

Sometimes he will comment if he likes them, sometimes he doesn't say a word and will just continue on with his task at hand.

If I see a style that I like I tend to buy one in every color. (seriously)

My latest collection came from Walmart and I just absolutely love these...so does Mike

Perfect for the 4th of July huh?

They come in every possible color...plain denim, purple, pink, you name it...and yes, I have them all!!!

I found these today online and I think they are adorable too...

What can I say...I'm just a girl who loves cute panties!

Mandy

Introduction

I decided to take up blogging as a place for me to go, a space of my own. So many times memories slip or fade over time... I am at the point in my life right now where there are many new chapters that I want to remember.

I thought about those old fashioned hand written diaries but with two children (a tween and a teen) in the house, that isn't always smart...not with what I might have to say some days. So for now this is my little haven...a place for me to remember, vent about, share and discover as I walk through this new beginning in my life.

My story:

I am a single mom of two awesome kids who light up my world, they are truly the air I breathe and the reason I smile everyday. I left their dad because the marriage became an epic fail, it was absolutely the hardest decision I ever had to make in my life. I am one of those very old fashioned types, (a fairy tale believer in a way) I had always dreamed about meeting the man of my dreams, falling in love-staying in love, having a family together and being married forever. Sounds simple actually and for many it is, it was for me for many years, until things started to crumble and fast. I couldn't understand why he changed, or what I was doing wrong to deserve to be treated the way I was...there were many faces of abuse and they were all ugly...it was time to go, so I left.

It has been a journey no doubt...so many realizations, self discoveries and tears all leading to where I am now. Right now I am now on a road that is being so delicately paved as God directs my path and I am trusting completely in him! For the first time in a LONG time I can honestly say that I am very happy and that is a great place to be! My kids are happy too and that makes me even happier!

Along this journey I met a wonderful man who is my best friend among many other things. We are polar opposites in many ways yet we share many of the same goals and dreams in life. He inspires me, encourages me, believes in me and loves me. I love him back!

He is a simple man with old fashioned beliefs: He believes in family, working hard and being true to yourself. He is loyal, stubborn and has a heart of gold.

We have mutually agreed to incorporate discipline/spanking into our relationship, this is only a small fragment of us...this doesn't define us but it is part of us. Most who share this dynamic to any degree understand its components and the dynamic.

Our lives are like most others...it consists of the simple day to day things, laughter, and struggles. I am a mom, friend, daughter and girlfriend to Mike. (for the sake of anonymity I am calling him Mike) All of these things are part of me and I will use this blog to share all the pieces of me.

Feel free to read our stories and share in our journey.


~Mandy~